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Whether you’re a working mom, a spouse who travels a lot, or in a relationship where both of you are busy, it’s easy to start feeling as though you’re stretched too thin.

Unfortunately, the busier we get, the more our relationships tend to suffer. Even though we live in a world surrounded by technology, couples often feel more disconnected than ever.

It’s important to find ways to reconnect with your partner as often as possible. No matter what your schedules look like, making time for each other and choosing to stay connected will help your relationship to remain strong—no matter what you may be going through.

The good news? It doesn’t have to be difficult to find meaningful ways to reconnect. Let’s take a look at five tactics you and your partner can use on a regular basis.

1. Leave Love Notes

The days of writing love letters don’t have to be over. At the same time, you don’t need to sit down and write a novel for your significant other. You may be surprised at how impacting a meaningful note can be.

Write down a reason you love your wife and set it on her nightstand. Compliment something relating to your husband’s personality and place it in his lunch.

These little “treasures” will be a welcomed surprise for your partner throughout the day. Also, they communicate that you’re paying attention to the little details about each other.

2. Be More Affectionate

People show and receive love in different ways. But, everyone benefits from some type of affection as it builds intimacy.

Do something like giving your partner a hug when they get home. Or, resting your head on their shoulder as you watch television at night. These simple acts can make a big difference. Find little ways of showing more affection each day.

3. Listen to Each Other

Practice active listening with your partner as often as possible. When you’re having a conversation, make sure you’re fully engaged. Look into each other’s eyes and don’t allow yourself to be distracted by other things.

By giving one another your full attention during a conversation, you’ll automatically feel more connected, more valued, and you’ll know you’re actually being heard. It’s a great way to continuously foster emotional intimacy.

4. Respect Each Other

One of the most important things you can do to remain connected with your partner is to have mutual respect for each other. It should be the basis of your whole relationship.

Showing respect and appreciation for your partner helps to build a certain “culture” around your relationship. It will allow you to be stronger as a couple.

So, even when you do feel disconnected or have arguments, that underlying respect is still there. It makes those negative moments less harmful, and less impactful.

5. Share Happy Memories

When you feel disconnected in the present, it can sometimes help to bring up happy memories of things you’ve done together. While you shouldn’t allow yourself to get stuck in the past, reflecting on positive memories can rejuvenate your bond and make it easier to connect at the moment.

If you can bring up memories that make you both laugh, you’ll be rewarded even more. Remember, laughter is a natural way to boost your mood, making you feel happier around each other.

Don’t panic if you’re starting to feel disconnected from your partner. It doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed, or even in trouble. But, it does mean you should put in the effort and find meaningful ways to consistently reconnect with each other.

Try using these tips on a regular basis, and you might find you feel closer to your partner than ever.

If you need help reconnecting with your partner, let’s talk. My email is jess@nmccct.com Together, we can find ways to strengthen your connection.

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